Why are we dating on the internet and chat rooms and not meeting people in real life?
Are there any decent people to meet and date anymore. I am divorced after 25 years of marriage and went on a few one date wonders through the internet and find them all to be liars.Why can’t we date people the real way such as meeting them somewhere and asking them on a date? And why can’t people who are married or already dating someone stay in their relationships and not cheat? What has happened to society? I want to get married again and I am not sure that will happen with all the idiots out there.Any suggestions?
Jennifer
20 Apr, 2010
i think for a lot of people, the saying you always want what you can’t have is true. so weather it be finding someone on the internet or if your already in a relationship, you want something better. Let’s say your single and you find this really great person on the internet, but they turn out to be a dud in real life.. well, you can’t have them. let’s say your in a relationship/marriage and you meet this attractive person, you can’t have them. Also, a lot of times, once you get something you wanted, most likely when you get it, you don’t want it anymore.
Paula
20 Apr, 2010
This is a very important question — one of the best I’ve seen on Yahoo Answers.
I feel the same way as you, having tried to meet guys on those dating sites. So many of the men I’ve dated have ended up being married or already have a long-term girlfriend… and they keep quiet about this until you’ve developed feelings for them. Then you find out they are on the internet searching for the next woman — while they are still with you! I don’t understand what’s going on out there, I really don’t.
It’s like men (and some women) have gone absolutely crazy with the dazzling array of thousands of potential sex partners and they just can’t be bothered investing the time in developing a relationship with one person. That is, getting to know them slowly, spending quality time with them, sharing their interests etc.
People have a strong desire for instant gratification but within a day or two they’re not happy with that either and they go searching for the next source of self-gratification. It’s like we’ve lost our patience and our flexibility, because we’re constantly being bombarded with messages that we DESERVE better, that something better is just around the corner. People are living on a diet of constant thrills and excitement and can’t handle it when the intensity fades over time. So peoole are always feeling dissatisfied with what they have.
It’s pretty sad, really. No wonder so many people are trying yoga, mindfulness and meditation to bring some sense of quality and meaning to their lives.
kate carpenter
20 Apr, 2010
There has always been ‘idiots’ and liars in the dating scene, whether you meet them ‘by accident’ in your daily activities or through an online dating site. This was true back 16 years ago (and more!) when I was in the dating scene, then I met my husband by using a personal ad in a local singles newspaper (this was pre-internet).
The key is not them, but how you approach dating. If you’re using an online dating site, your profile needs to attract more specifically who you are looking for and weed out the ones you’re not. Still, those get in.
Now, you must be alert and ask the types of questions that give you the answers you need to determine if they are real or not and give you information to do a little checking. Home phone, address, work place are some. Google is your friend, along with your city or county recorder-who may have information on the web concerning marriage, home loans, etc. If they won’t give you a land line phone number-red flag #1!
Don’t take too long to meet them in person. Most people ‘get themselves in trouble’ online because they build up a more intimate relationship with someone via email before they meet in person. Yes, do communicate and get to know details about the person via email, but form no attachment until after meeting. Where they want to meet, their availability tells you a lot.
Keep trying, don’t give up. It took me a couple of years before I found my husband-and he’s perfect for me (even though it took working on our relationship to get where we are today). I finally discovered how to write a profile that brought the men I was looking for to me!
G B SINGH
20 Apr, 2010
Internet and chat rooms are yet another clothes we have lately started wearing in order to hide our real naked self.
We fear REAL interaction of life.